The Holidays are here and the pressure is real. The expectation to consume alcohol in a social setting is amplified this time of year. Have you ever felt content avoiding the hangover and just saying no? Have those around you acted disappointed? Time and time again this can create feelings of rejection causing you to just go with the flow.
The quote “never trust a man who isn’t drinking” is a prime example of a mentality too many people have. Why does one have to indulge to gain trust? Business all around the world is conducted with this state of mind. Trust should be gained by demonstration of integrity. Standing by your intention is a prime example of integrity. Someone drinking for acceptance is a weak link. That is someone I wouldn’t trust or chose to do business with.
Building a social circle designed to nurture your intent is everything.
I know this guy we call Kyle. Kyle is the town drunk. He’s hilarious, sweet, endearing and downright wild. This is a heafty reputation to live up to, but Kyle often wants to feel good and get sober. Imagine his crowds dismay the day he arrives clean, calm and collective. It’s a rocky road the first few weeks of this transition. With zero support from your social circle this journey can feel hopeless. Relapse is inevitable and the insanity continues.
So many people struggle with body image and drink to feel better about themselves. If only the world would realize how quickly they would see results by eliminating daily consumption of alcohol. Alcohol is an enormous source of carbs and sugars. It’s typical for people to indulge in a lighter beer in order to avoid carbs or intoxication. However, having several “light” beers is entirely the culprit. Even though a buzz gives you a temporary escape, any form of daily activity will do just the same. Endorphins make you happy, while burning unwanted fat. This buzz will last a lifetime without the hangover.
I have a friend who really likes cycling. He’s spent a lifetime struggling to quit drinking. He found sobriety with the support of alcoholics anonymous. He recently returned to Florida to visit friends who were familiar with his old ways. His desire to be polite to his host caused him to relapse, leaving him feeling disappointed with himself. After a week of drinking he confided in me and we went to lunch. Out of routine, he felt the need to order a glass of wine. I asked him, “Is this really what you want”? He admitted it wasn’t and sincerely thanked me. That realization inspired this blog. We have a beautiful friendship and the ocean view lunch was sensational. Who needs a drink?
I myself often order a drink when everyone else is. Even though I left the house saying, “I’m not drinking this time.” I do it just to avoid being centered out. The debate is redundant.
Who likes a sober stripper? We’re expected to be fun and free of our inhibitions. Our society relies on alcohol for the confidence to let loose! How could a sober stripper be perceived as fun? “Want to go have some fun?” is often the exchange between patron and dancer. Followed by “what are you drinking?” Society can’t seem to conceive of sober sexuality. I find it exciting when I find a confident man who doesn’t need alcohol to feel comfortable. That is my idea of the male unicorn..haha.. this type of man is a huge turn on. For me personally, drinking makes me sleepy and irritable, but when I turn down shots from the masses, I loose the image of fun girl. What’s interesting about that is, I am a lot more fun sober.
Chelsea has spent this past year transforming from Wile E Cyotee girl into a seriously seductive business woman. However this doesn’t appeal to a lot of the clientele. Leaving her drinking past behind has been liberating and taught her a few things. Mainly she admits that habitual drinking heightens your tolerance and allows you to function contently for the time being. She goes on to admit to me, “that hangovers set me back so much that a few drinks on an occasional night have become extremely uninteresting.” Chelsea reflects on what she refers to as “professional drinking” and points out that, “unless you’re doing it everyday it’s not as easy to sustain.” Realistically, who can drink everyday forever and expect to have the life they truly desire? Once you figure out your ambitions and find the confidence to go after them, a sober state of mind is a must.
I find that as a sober dancer, I often lose money by refusing a drink. Chelsea has taught me to fake the Patron with a snifter full of water. The bartenders find it comical. I fear scrutiny if I’m caught “faking it” so I’ve adopted a more honest solution. I say, “I’m so hot right now, I really need a water, can I cool down first?” Then 90% of the time they realize we are already having fun and loose sight of whether I’m having a drink or not.
Tomorrow is Christmas morning and not everyone is going to be surrounded by love and family. That’s ok! Think about your life and those few things you’ve always wanted to do. Figure out a plan. Organize your calender. Reflect and tell yourself it’s ok to be sober. There’s a huge fitness focused array of communities out there waiting for you. The number one thing I’ve taken from everyone’s stories is that you need support to achieve your goals. No matter what they are, so seek out and find others who are living the lifestyle you aspire to have.
Guess what taste really good in a wine glass? Koumbacha…repairs your gut drink responsibly 😉